The most influential factor affecting the quality of a relationship is the amount of time spent together. Once you are actually in the company of one with whom you enjoy relationship, the quality of the time you spend together becomes significant. Drive-by relationships involve people who meet up with each other, slow their schedules down enough to make a quick connection, then speed off again in their original direction of travel.
Paul said that he was overpowered, subdued, and held as in a vise by “the love of Christ.” Very few of us really know what it means to be held in the grip of the love of God. We tend so often to be controlled simply by our own experience.