“Seek and ye shall find” – Why others want what you already have.

St. Francis said, “Preach the gospel constantly. Use words if necessary.” Your most powerful witness or testimony for the Lord is what others see when they observe you, not what you speak.

What causes one who is not committed to Jesus Christ to seek Him? In Amazing Grays, Amazing Grace, the chapter titled It’s the Relationship begins with:

“A beautiful saint may be a hindrance if he does not present Jesus Christ, but only what Christ has done for him; he will leave the impression––“What a fine character that man is!”––that is not being a true friend of the Bridegroom (John 3:29). We have to be more careful of our moral and vital relationship to Him than of any other thing, even of obedience.”  ~Oswald Chambers

Regularly people say to Baber or me, “Oh, if only I had a horse like Bo. You are so lucky.” Others may ask if he is for sale; they want what I have. The truth is they don’t want Bo per se; they want a relationship with their horse like I have with Bo. Just as it is wrong to admire the character of that beautiful saint Chambers refers to rather than the work of Jesus Christ, which initiated and directed their relationship, so it is incorrect to identify Bo as the special thing desired. What others desire is the relationship that as his trainer I initiated and directed with Bo, made special by the commitment he has also made to relationship.


Have you ever looked at a father and son who were so obviously connected to each other that you wished you could have had a father like him or that your son would be like this one? We may think, What a different path my life would have taken had I a parent like that one. When you see a long-married couple still holding hands after fifty years of laughter and heartbreak, so obviously in love with each other that the line between them is but a blur, do you lament that you weren’t blessed with a husband like him or a wife like her? How lucky they are. Why wasn’t I as fortunate?

It may be an easier path for parents and their children to build strong bonds when they have been blessed with great role models. If your parents taught you how to be both humble and strong, you have far better odds of success raising your own children. Whether you look for that great spouse, wonderful children, or a horse like Bo, in each instance what you long for is not the person or the horse, but the special relationship you have witnessed.

Oswald Chambers sums up the point in his My Utmost entry for June 10th this way:

“You can never give another person that which you have found, but you can make him homesick for what you have.”

The beauty, security, and joy of a relationship with Jesus Christ speaks to the searching heart of all people. Let the example of your own walk with Christ speak volumes to those who must still commit to seek.

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  1. Bill Beavers Dog Crates:

    You really said that in a way I could easily understand. Thanks so much for the post. This is a major component of the human condition.

    • Lynn:

      I’ll bet you’ve witnessed the same thing with a dog and master who have a special relationship. In most cases, ‘miracle’ dogs are really those with an amazingly close and bonded relationship with their owner. It’s not the dog that’s special, nor the person – it’s the two of them together that makes the miracles happen.
      Thanks for dropping by Bill.

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